Today there was absolutely no traffic on our way from kids’ school to MMA. Thus, we arrived one hour earlier. I had one extra hour of training and it felt like a gift. It was a gift. We are not entitled to anything. Everything we take for granted is such a gift.
Being able to play violin is a gift. Because I only started doing it a year ago and I have been practicing almost every day since. This time, this ability to practice, this motivation are a gift. Desire to play is a gift. I love that I take the violin and listen to the sounds it makes and it still enchants me. It is like having my head on somebody’s shoulder and listening to beautiful stories from the insider point of view.
Being able to practice jiu-jitsu and kick-boxing is a gift too. None of us is entitled to it. It is great to have people around who want to practice with you, to have the arms and the legs and the body that is so akin to sport. It is great to be able to come here every day. Because it builds you up, it gives you energy, willpower and it helps you to work on your goals in all areas in life. Still, it is not granted to all of us and I appreciate every hour I can train.
It is a gift to be able to see and meet people every day. Some of them we meet daily, at work, at school, some of them not so often. It is a gift to see them, to hug them, to see them smile, to talk to them. Their time and words are a gift to us. Nobody owes us anything. We do not owe anything to anybody. Everything that we make happen is a gift.
To work at our jobs and on our projects is a gift. To have problems and to solve them is a gift too.
I was in the changing room at MMA and I told somebody after training, “There was no traffic, so I arrived one hour earlier and it feels like a gift.” Because this is exactly how it felt.
Писать ли о любви дойдя до океана,
В такт музыки пройдясь по мокрому песку?
Иль танцевать, кружить, и жданно иль нежданно,
К надежде приучить заветную мечту?
Писать ли о судьбе, простой, понятной, гибкой
Под музыку волны и камнепада сбой?
Иль ветер целовать с безумную улыбкой
Скрестив свою судьбу с совсем другой судьбой?
Иль думать о следах, о том что прежде было
О прошлом, что лежит, как камни на песке?
Иль будущим манить, далеким и незримым,
Сверкающем свечей в кромешной темноте?
И тихим мирным шагом идти вперёд по мокрому песку.
Ценить тот пляж, ласкать приливы взглядом.
И нежно целовать, и плакать на ветру.
Спокойно, шаг за шагом;
И распознать в пути свою звезду.
I walked on the wet sand towards the beach and I instantly thought about music. The water with its white foam and the reflection of the sky looked like a musical universe. Notes have been written. Thousands, millions of notes. Music was everywhere. I could hear it in every wave, in every gulp of the wind, in my own steps on the sand. I only had to listen.
If beauty existed, it was here. Now.
It kissed you on the forehead. Untouchable soft kiss of beauty. Light as the air, and you remember it forever. When everything else fails it remains. Love is a blessing.
What if real love is the ability to love somebody who does not live up to your moral standards?
We are human. But how akin we are to compassion?
Yesterday driving to a lunch with a friend I thought to myself, “What if I am able to love, to truly unconditionally love, a person who acts like I never would?”
Could I put all the judgments aside and love somebody whose nature is different from mine. Very different.
It would require time. It would require faith. It would require strength. It is accepting that you can, and probably will, be hurt. And letting your faith prevail. Believing in certain goodness of people.
Forgiving (not forgetting). Accepting (not condescending). How many of us have felt real compassion? Towards ourselves? And towards others?
One of the most difficult questions: Can you love somebody whose standards are different from yours in most important life matters?
I do not have the answer now. I think I will know in years to come.
The road not taken.
What if we can love like this? What would it feel like?
Unabridged edition of love?
Many times I do not like how my shoes look. It is not that they look bad, but there is something unnatural about most of the shoes. They make you feel uncomfortable and at times concerned about your own look.
It was raining heavily this morning and when I was getting out of the kids’ school I silently observed the shoes of other parents. It was not done on purpose, I just stopped for a few seconds under the roof and looked at the rain puddles on the school patio and then saw the shoes. There were all kinds of shoes: rain-boots, leather shoes, very modern sport shoes, tennis shoes, tall leather boots with heels, leather boots without heels, grey snickers, black man boots, blue and orange artist shoes.
And all of the shoes looked out of place. Like if the pair of shoes and the person wearing them did not agree on something earlier in the day but still decided to pursue this bit of road together. There was some pain in the way the shoes related to its’ owners. One sensed that at times the person will be embarrassed about the shoes, at times the shoes will feel uncomfortable and even hurt the feet lightly, at times the shoes will not coordinate with the rest of the clothing. At times the shoes will look plainly ugly.
And at the same time we will still be okey with our shoes.
I always feel the awkwardness of the shoes. Barefoot is the best way to walk on the grass, the sand, the ocean. But I love the shoes too, even if they feel unnatural and make me insecure at times. They make you feel present. I like looking at the shoes. In the cafes. Some shoes look ugly and I like it too. The ugliness of the shoes makes the other person real. And you smile. The incompatibility takes all the pain away for a few moments. You feel the warmth. Then you sit quietly and drink your hot tea on a very rainy day. And listen to the sound of the rain drops.
I do not like words when they have been too thought through and neutralized by expectance of being understood. The best words are the ones that come to our minds in its uneven and raw shape. When we still have doubts about how those will be taken, but before we know we have said them out load to the person in front of us. Spontaneously.
Here is the new year. 2016. And I am spending more time than ever in the cafes. Reading. Observing people. Sometimes I think that past never happened and I have this idiotic (=unearthly) feeling of lightness in my body. And I am happy because I feel love for people around me. They are part of this space. Part of this cafe. Part of this human animal that has million hearts and million eyes and million minds. And it has grace. And the search of meaning of existence.
The only goal is to do my best. Not to give up what my life will be in 2 or 3 years from now. My goals have been set up in summer. Now… To show up and focus on whatever thing I am doing at that moment. Be it fighting, playing music, reading, or building a business. Or be it simply laughing with a friend or walking barefoot on the beach. Throwing shells into the ocean foam…
One thing at a time. Fully in it.