I baked a Mallorcan coca for myself today. Because I really wished somebody would cook a meal for me tonight. However, it is always me cooking for the kids and for myself. Every day. Day after day. Every meal.

Thus I took this recipe by my friend from Mallorca and baked a coca for myself and for the kids. It is very simple. Here it is:

-1/2 glass of olive oil

-3/4 glass of warm water

-flour (you add it till you can knead the dough)

Then you cut vegetables (onions, tomatoes, zucchinis, mushrooms, peppers, black olives, or any vegetables you have at home) in small pieces, add olive oil and salt to the vegetables, mix them well in a bowl and spread the vegetables over the dough. You bake it for 20 min at 400 F and it is done. And it tastes amazing!

The recipe is simple. Like a recipe for life 🙂

-patience

-kindness

-light

Only three ingredients and voila! I thought how great it would be if we would cook for ourselves and for others just this simple meal made of patience, kindness and light.

I came to realize last week that what people tell us is about them, but at the same time it affects us greatly. It does, unless we are open to hear others too. When a person accuses you of being scared it is he himself who is scared. When the person tells you he does not trust you it means he does not trust himself. When a person tells you you can’t do something it is he who can’t do it, not you. When people are hurt and depressed they talk about their own past and present drama. They talk about their anger and their weaknesses. It is not about you, it is about how messed up their own lives are. It is about how lost they are…. However if you love the person it is hard, it is extremely hard not to fall into this emotional pit. Keep a moment of silence in your mind and do not react, do not reply with the same anger, depression, weakness. At a tough moment the other person wants you to be hurt like him, to scream like him, to be weak and broken like him. Then you are suffering together. All you can do is to give your friend a hand to lift him up. And use exactly these three ingredients: patience, kindness and light. Like if you were baking this old Mallorca dish. You always put love into kneading the dough. You can’t do it without love, it never tastes the same. And make sure he knows that if you can’t lift him up you will sit by his side as long as needed, may be forever.

The most important thing here is to keep yourself open to all other people. To listen to the world outside of your intimate world. Do not be upset if one person does not like you. So what? This does not make you ugly. There are hundreds out there who will love you. Hear them. Do not be upset if you can’t get one job done correctly. It does not mean you are a failure. It only means there are 300 jobs you can do amazingly well. Do those.

I was hurt and felt unloved when the person I loved never gave me flowers or said that I looked great or did anything to make me feel cared for. I was an idiot. I was an idiot because I consciously decided not to notice that almost every week I received proposals for dating. And I was never part of a dating site and never looked for it. However people would message their friends saying that I looked beautiful and hot and if I was open to date them. When I finally stopped feeling hurt and opened my eyes it felt great. Most of the time I did not date those men, but it still felt great to be asked. It allowed me to recover my confidence and strength. And when we are confident and strong we do not hurt others. When we are confident and strong we project patience, kindness and light.

Life is like kneading the dough with love.